Final Persuasive Speech
According to UNICEF, one child is killed in the world every 5 minutes. How many children do suffer from violence then? Emotional, physical, sexual? How do they live after all the abuse they experienced? Today I'm really inspired to talk to you about the first effect such children get - aggression behaviour, its reasons and how to respond to it.
First I want to share a personal experience with you, once I was bullied without any reasons. Then it is important to sort out what is aggression and what causes it. Finally We'll learn how to overcome the guilt feeling and stop looking for reasons in our actions and words.
Let's start. Last summer I worked as a junior camp counselor and everything was just fine: I got into the atmosphere and I even used to the outdoor toilets and flies in my bed but there I faced the problem I thought I would never face. SHE was a camp counselor of a neighboring group of children. Day by day she was rude to me and tried to hurt me with stupid jokes. There were nights when I woke up at 3 am or so because my neighbours were talking about me. About my actions, my words. I was shocked. Nobody treated me like that in my whole life. I suppose, you want to know why she behaved like that? One day I unintentionally heard that girl’s story about her family. She told tthat her step-father always treated her badly. He bothered her with questions about her studies, her work, he said she was a burden to their family, that she lived at their expense and so on and so forth. She was 19 just for the record. Her mother never stood up for her. One day she had a day off and she went home. After 2 hours she came back and said «I just washed my jeans and left. It’s impossible to be there».
And then I understood everything. She suffered at home. I can even say her parents did all to drive her out of their house, their family, their life. Just wanted to be free from her. Maybe they didn’t love her. And after this situation I did no longer look for reasons in myself. But not concerning my feeling, how many are there people who suffered at home and now being adults hurt other people by aggressive actions?
Now it's time to discover what is aggression and what causes it. Social psychologists define aggression as behavior that is intended to harm another individual who does not wish to be harmed. Statistically, here are the most common reasons what raise aggression in children:
First I want to share a personal experience with you, once I was bullied without any reasons. Then it is important to sort out what is aggression and what causes it. Finally We'll learn how to overcome the guilt feeling and stop looking for reasons in our actions and words.
Let's start. Last summer I worked as a junior camp counselor and everything was just fine: I got into the atmosphere and I even used to the outdoor toilets and flies in my bed but there I faced the problem I thought I would never face. SHE was a camp counselor of a neighboring group of children. Day by day she was rude to me and tried to hurt me with stupid jokes. There were nights when I woke up at 3 am or so because my neighbours were talking about me. About my actions, my words. I was shocked. Nobody treated me like that in my whole life. I suppose, you want to know why she behaved like that? One day I unintentionally heard that girl’s story about her family. She told tthat her step-father always treated her badly. He bothered her with questions about her studies, her work, he said she was a burden to their family, that she lived at their expense and so on and so forth. She was 19 just for the record. Her mother never stood up for her. One day she had a day off and she went home. After 2 hours she came back and said «I just washed my jeans and left. It’s impossible to be there».
And then I understood everything. She suffered at home. I can even say her parents did all to drive her out of their house, their family, their life. Just wanted to be free from her. Maybe they didn’t love her. And after this situation I did no longer look for reasons in myself. But not concerning my feeling, how many are there people who suffered at home and now being adults hurt other people by aggressive actions?
Now it's time to discover what is aggression and what causes it. Social psychologists define aggression as behavior that is intended to harm another individual who does not wish to be harmed. Statistically, here are the most common reasons what raise aggression in children:
a. Exposure to abuse - physical, verbal, sexual.
b. Neglectful or violent parenting
c. Emotional trauma and stress
d.Bullying.
e. Watching violence in the media and playing violent video games
So abuse and neglectful parenting take the first place! According to World Health Organization, approximately 20 % of women and 5-10% of men report being sexually abused as children; 25-50 % of all children report being physically abused.In Russia, according to data for the past decades, every year about 2 million children under the age of 14 are beaten by their parents, 10 % of these children die from beatings, and 2 thousand children commit suicide. I think it is enough. The reason why they are aggressive are their background. It is obviously maddening, horrifying fact. But how to overcome the feeling that there is something wrong with you and actually forgive the aggression, understand his actions? These tips might be of use for you when you face the aggression.
c. Emotional trauma and stress
d.Bullying.
e. Watching violence in the media and playing violent video games
So abuse and neglectful parenting take the first place! According to World Health Organization, approximately 20 % of women and 5-10% of men report being sexually abused as children; 25-50 % of all children report being physically abused.In Russia, according to data for the past decades, every year about 2 million children under the age of 14 are beaten by their parents, 10 % of these children die from beatings, and 2 thousand children commit suicide. I think it is enough. The reason why they are aggressive are their background. It is obviously maddening, horrifying fact. But how to overcome the feeling that there is something wrong with you and actually forgive the aggression, understand his actions? These tips might be of use for you when you face the aggression.
a. be confident of yourself
b. be aware of reason what cause aggression
b. be aware of reason what cause aggression
c. mind only your state of mind
d. never act aggressively back
e. forgive and pity the aggressor!
d. never act aggressively back
e. forgive and pity the aggressor!
At this step you know my personal story of emotional abuse, we discussed some reasons what cause aggression and you know how to stop feeling guilt of aggressive behaviour aggressor treated you. Once Gwen Randall-Young said: Aggression is a biological response to a life-threatening situation. So when you face an aggressive person in your life, stop and think, maybe they should be pitied, not treated aggressively back?
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